Apo kono eh Jang

This week has been another hectic week for me & hubby following Along’s misconduct the previous week. Hubby had to take leave to resolve the matter. I had left the trouble for him since I certainly believe he’s the best person to deal with the situation wisely. I am all hooked up with work so as to not to get my self infuriated. Yes I can easily get annoyed when it comes to stuff like this.

Hubby went to Along’s school on Wednesday and after some conversation with the Headmistress he was advise that Along will be suspended from school with effect from 1st of May for 2 weeks but hubby negotiate to change the date to take effect from yesterday (25th April) instead. The headmistress was also kind enough to send him for a “Team Building” course for problematic students so as to revolutionize him to have some improvement when he returns. Otherwise, the school has no other option but to expelled him from school. Well I’ll dealt with that one later. Eventually hubby took Along back to PJ for consultation.

I had to get a present for my staff wedding this forthcoming Sunday. I was considering buying her a Microwave Oven and found a great deal for my purchase at Sogo. I’m also arranging to take children back to KL since its going to be a long weekend so we can spent time together here at home.

Apo cito eh Daro

From the time when they were born, my mother has been taking care of my children being the fact that I lived with my parents before and after marriage. Being a working mom, a wife and student certainly need a superwoman in you. I have been in employment immediately after my SPM in 1984 to support my parents and it remains the most important factor in my working life ever since. Due to that I was not able to further my studies albeit results were good.

After three years of working experience, I enroll for off-campus studies at local university. In between period, I got married, give birth to Along and Angah, and manage to complete my Diploma as well. Through the years, it was my mom who takes care of my two children. Being married at young age has its pros and cons. My hubby and I started off from zero. We went through the ups and downs before we had what we possess now and still striving for a better live for us and the children, at the same time uphold our responsibility to both my parents and his.

While we were busy with our own commitment and obligation, the children grown in the care of my parents. Nevertheless we were emotionally involved and never at any point of time that I disregard them. We finally moved to our own abode adjacent to my parent’s home back in 1994. I have always wanted living on my own (for some reason I don’t want to be too dependent on my parents) and I was very contented. At this point in time, I had left my former employer to work for a better position in a prominent organization.

My daily routine is to drop the children at their grandma on the way to office and fetch them in the evening. Time flies and before you knew it, I had given birth to Alang and Adek. After giving birth to Alang, I went to pursue my degree at my former university (doing off campus studies again) and graduated six month after Adek was born. Still the routine continues. At one stage, I decided to hire a maid to take care of Alang and Adek as Along and Angah had started schooling but not for long, I had problem with my marriage (This will be elaborated further in my future write-up). I realize that the children are better to be in the good hands of their grandma.

Apparently my mom and dad finally decided they wanted to spend their time at their very hometown in KP (my parent have be living in PJ since late 60’s). They had requested to bring along the children. I was of course reluctant at first but having a problem marriage, I had no other options at that point time but to agree. I still remember Along and Angah were in their form one and standard five respectively while Alang entering his first year of school. Adek was just 4 years old then. It was quite bizarre in the beginning but gradually we reconcile. The journey of a weekend parent begins since.

Along

I am sorry coz i dont hv time to write in this blog on daily basis, its not that i dont wanna write, but time does not permit me to do so eventhough there's so many things that i wanna write. Its my lunch break now and being a friday, i have longer break so i decided to take this opportunity to write something in this blog.

I wanna a talk about my eldest son whom i called Along (not ah looong occay!!) coz i just received a call from my dad informing me that's my son is in trouble again. Dunno why Along will always create problem for us and make me worried all the time.

Along was born on a fine wednesday morning of 31st July, 16 years ago. I had 9 months of morning sickness but I dont have any complications during labour. The delivery just happen within seconds that i dont even recall how the contraction felt. From day one he was born, he's already shows signs of trouble (or problem??). This baby of mine have "sawan tangis" (i dunno what it's scientific term) and being 1st time mom, its kinda of difficult for me to overcome the trauma. I was lucky tho I still have my mom to assist me during my confinement. The "crying and crying" goes on and on until finally when he's about 1.5 years I got pregnant again. Surprisingly the "sawan" disappear when I give birth to my 2nd daughter.

When he was young, i had to have a lot of patience with him. He will do all kinds of things that makes me gets into my nerves. I once remember when he was in std three, a teacher called to inform that my son was caught stealing teacher's book (if i'm not mistaken) with his friends in school. Being a wife, a mother, a working woman and a student at that time, i find it difficult to handle him. Again i always have my mom and dad there for me.

Years and years went by, the relationship between along and me became estrange. He seldom talk to me and always like to hang out with his frens. Even if we went on a family holiday, he's always by himself. He's not even close with his other siblings. He's always in the world of his own. He's very stubborn, irresponsible and not doing well in school and i just cant stand his behavior. I get irritate by his innocent look whenever I question him for his wrong doing.

Every year since he was in form one, I had to transfer him from one school to another due to his discipline problems. Just a week ago, i was called to his school and the teacher told me that they are going to dismiss him from school if he continues to create problem and violate the rules. (he was found smoking in school compound and sleeping at the surau).

When is was in form 2, he was caught stealing bicycles (not one but two bikes) in school and he was charged in court. Hubby and I had to bail him and he was sentence for good behavior for 24 months which will expire in August. If he fails, we had to pay the bail. And finally today, my dad inform me that he was caught riding motorcycle without a license, motorbike has no insurance and hanging out at 2.00 am in the morning. The police came and send him home.

At the point of writing this, I felt so depressed and disappointed. I know i have no one to blame but myself. I've been so hard on him since he was young and being the eldest son he always gets the blame and spank. But I dont understand why my own blood and flesh would do this to his own mother. I dont have the answers now, not yet but nevertheless I love him equally and unconditionally. Its a fact and I want him to know that.. *sigh*

AMLA

Last Thursday and Friday, I attended a training session on AMLA (Anti Money Laundring Act) - Know Your Customer (KTC) organized by our Training Dept. It was conducted by this guy from IBBM (Mr VK) which I find it very knowledgeable and interesting ones. I had lost touch of the Banking Practice since I took my VSS more than five years ago and I find that the Banking Practice has changed tremendously for the past five years. I've heard about this act before but with very minimal knowledge. I am now attached with an Institutions where we are more towards social obligation to our Bumiputra community. All that I've been practicing in the banking sector does not apply and I had difficult times dealing with my client here. They are either ignorant or they just don't bother. Being a compliance person makes you tend to be not the " popular ones " in this office and my days in the office are filled with anger and tense. We've had all the policy & procedures in place but it was never been followed. It sucks big time!! Anyway back to my training, it was a fun filled session coz this guy really knows his way to make all of us alive during the days especially after food. He makes hell of a joke of our SV and by the end of the course, I rate him all 5!! :)

Pernyataan Pembelaan

I took leave on Friday to do some errand and file my defence at the SAMC for the summons served on me. I was summon by BKRM for overdue I failed to settle a year ago (which was not intentionally)for an amount that I totally dont agree with. I had this dispute about the figure which was served and so I claimed "mengaku tidak bersalah" during the mention date couple of months ago and the next hearing was fixed on this Friday April 7. Prior to this date, I'm suppose to file my "Pernyataan Pembelaan" which I only did last friday!! I did not appoint any lawyer to represent me coz I could not afford their fees and I was told by a collegue (who was a legal advisor) that I can file the defence myself. I consulted (FOC) him on how to go about filing my defence on and it only cost me RM4.00 for filing fees + RM1.80 for registered post!! (I had to mail the defence to the plaintiff's lawyer)If I were to appoint a lawyer they could easily charged me RM1,000+++ (as happen to me on an earlier case)(must be wondering how many summons I had huh????)

I felt relieved upon filing and just had to be present in court on 7/4/2006. As for now I lay my case.