Holiday Breakaway

I had an awesome holiday with the family (hubby & kids). We went to Cherating and stayed at our customary resort, Legend Cherating that is, for I have been a member of this vacation ownership since 2004. We head off for Kuantan on Friday afternoon and arrive at about five pm.

Upon check in Adek & Alang hit for the swimming pool first whilst Along & Angah joined hubby to take a nap after the long hours of driving. I love to take the kids for swimming and I have been coaching them since they were toddler until they are able to swim on their own. But now Along and Angah no longer have the excitement and prefer to stay in the room watching TV.

We went out for dinner at a nearby restaurant. There are so many restaurants along the roadside to pick from until you really can’t decide which one to attempt. It’s only by chance that you would get really cheap and scrumptious ones. We attempted different eating-place for each meal. Normally, we skip breakfast as the kids prefer maggie mee (latest edition, mamee slurp) or just cereal with milk. In away it can also save some cost J.

Throughout the whole vacation, it’s either we are at the pool or the beach. We did not drop by Kuantan town because the last visit during CNY, we had stayed at town area. I took the opportunity to have my early morning run along the beach while Alang & Adek built sand castle. It’s good to know that I am able to jog for ½ an hour or so despite the fact that its been months since my last run. I had to make an effort to begin my jogging session again or else I will forever be overweight! Bored with the beach, we adjourned to the pool and I can still swims a few laps before I am fully exhausted. Alang & Adek can dip for hours in the pool so I just keep an eye on them by the poolside.

Late afternoon, hubby & the rest would join in and there we were the whole bunch joshing at each other. I was incredulous to see Along teasing & harassing Alang & Adek. At least there’s some improvement rather than being by himself, he’s enjoying every moment with his brother and sisters surfing the waves or helping Alang & Adek to fly the kites.

Actually when I planned for the vacation, I was expecting by this time, I would have received my increment with back dated sum but sorry to say I was wrong. However, I persist with my plan so as not to disappoint the kids but on strict budget of course. Hubby had no objection even he was hesitant at first. Along and Angah are mature enough to understand our constraint so they did not demand much. But that did not stop us from having a great time and I am content to have a wonderful vacation with the family.

We drove back to KP after spending three nights at the resort. Hubby & I stayed in KP for another day since our annual leave has yet to end. We wanted to take the kids back to PJ but Angah had to attend her tuition classes hence we had to postpone our departure. My leave ends on Tuesday so I decided to travel by bus to office on Wednesday morning whilst hubby drove back to PJ with the kids & my mum.

Since the kids are enjoying their holidays at home, I took another rest day on Friday, as I wanted to take them to Petrosains KLCC. Along excuse himself from joining us. Upon arriving at Petrosains, there was enormous crowd thus I decided to cancel the visit. The kids were frustrated but to cheer them up, we proceed to Kinokuniya. Hence instead of buying tickets to Petrosains, I ended spending for their storybooks in exchange which I think it’s worth it. We continue browsing at the mall for a short while before we adjourn to AM. I wanted to get Siti’s new release but end in buying watches for Angah and her facial care at Avon.

Then we proceed to nearby TJ since I had an hour more before fetching hubby from work. Alang & Adek enjoyed playing at the park while Angah and I sat at one corner just to keep an eye on them. I was thinking for a short run but I did not carry my gears along so I just enjoyed myself observing the kids.

That night we celebrated Adek 7th birthday (9/6). My younger sister, Makchu bought her the birthday cake and surprise present. Guess what she got from Makchu? A hamster! Adek was so excited. Earlier at Kinokuniya I had bought her storybooks as her presents. Essentially I wanted to get her new bicycle (if only I had received my arrears larr). But I’m persist to get her one if the budget permits.

Late night, the kids wanted to go along to Makchu’s house at TTDI Jaya with my mom to spend the night. They wanted to go for swimming in the morning at my sis place but my sis had to sent mom back early because mom had to attend our neighbor’s wedding. Eventually, I had to follow her back and ended spending the whole Saturday at my sis place. The kids went for swimming accompanied by Makchu while I do the cooking. After lunch the kids took a short nap before we adjourned back home to PJ.

We decided to leave early on our journey back to KP so as not to miss the AF concert. The kids and my mom (yes my mother!) are AF frenetic. During the previous years, I let them vote for their favorites contestant until it went out of control and I decided to put a limit on how much votes they are allowed to send in. This year I set the rules as I felt it was such a waste and pull the plug on for this time around. No objection.

When its time to make a move home, Adek was in tears. She’s like that when it comes to parting moment after spending a long holiday together. She just can’t unleash her emotions. I know she misses the good times that we shared and I don’t blame her for that. So I had to soothe her and assured her that this is only temporary. I will be back in no time and we can have lots of fun again. In tears she hugs me tied and said her goodbye followed by Along, Angah & Alang. Then the kids turn to hubby to bid him goodbye.

When stuff like this occurred to us, we felt guilty for leaving them behind but I am determined that by next year, I am going to take them back with me, no matter what it takes. I promise.

Crap of the day

I’ve not been able to continue my write up on Journey to Remember due to the fact that I’m really hookup up with this blardy job plus all other unforeseen circumstances at home that makes me pissed off. Dunno lar, why I have this love-hate relationship with my job (or perhaps the hate is more towards the people rather than the job itself)

Right now I’m also not in my rational state of mind bcoz of things that’s been happening in this facking office. All these shitty thinggy had drive me nuts! To be honest I don’t give a damn what’s going to happen to this office. The people really sucks!! be it the big “bald” bos and all the facking assholes are only getting (highly) paid for nothing. These are the people who don’t walk the talk aka NATO (no action talk only). Who they think they are? With typical malay aka bumiputra attitude they are really lack of professionalism what more credibility & their head are full of craps.

Come on people wake up!! We are already six years past the millennium. What happen to the motto “changing of mindset”? What I see is the CEO is changing, the environment has changed but the GMs and Divisions Head plus other “Heads” that was being appointed, their mind are still hanging somewhere. Despite of having so called vast experience, they still had their brains at the bottom of their asshole!! God sake!

For the other members of the org, things may get worse. And whether this org will get better or remain in existence after that only God Knows. From now onwards, I will just stick to whatever is required only. That’s it. U guys do your own blardy work, I’ll do mine.

Anyhow, I’m looking forward for the long holidays with the family. Will be off until next week, so hope to write some more after I came back. Until then, adios people.

A Journey To Remember 2001 ~ 2002

2001 ~ Major Financial Crisis

Our financial burden became crucial and we brawl all the times. Hubby no longer contributes in the household expenses and I had to uphold all the liabilities. I struggle my way to meet the increase in expenditure by working seven days a week even on public holidays. I became extremely depressed with the situation until to some extent when the org offer VSS, I gladly accepted the offer. I felt relieve after sending my application just ten minutes before the closing hour. There goes my ten consecutive years of service with the org (1992 – 2001).

I had planned that I am going to settle all my debt with the compensation and make myself debt free and I did. I clear up all my credit cards, whatever small loan, etc, and the balance as a little savings incase I did manage to find a job. But god is great. Remember the job hunt I did earlier finally pay off when an org. called for interviews during my last few days with the existing org. I prayed that I get the job because only a few days left before I am officially unwaged (with a little compensation off course but definitely it will not last long before the money depleted). I need a job for an obvious reasons. Again, my prayers answered when I was offered the post. I was auspicious for being jobless less than a week before I report for duty at my new office.

By this time around, both BIL had already left the house to live on their own. They just left one fine day without giving any notice, similar to when they came as uninvited guest of the house. What a manner these young people have nowadays!!. Obviously I had no idea why they left and I don’t care. Later it comes to my surprise when one of them confiscates our car, which was purchased under his name. After massive negotiations, we failed to repossess the vehicle (I’ll explain this further in my future write-up) so I decided to use whatever savings to purchase a new MPV but I curse them that they are going to suffer because of their transgression.

2002 ~ Year of despair

While I was happy with my new job, back home was a disaster. Hubby and I are no longer in talking terms. The most heartbreaking outburst was when I discover that hubby was an addicted gambler with tons of debt owing to AhLoong. Without my knowledge he has been a frequent customer of PS from the time when he was transferred to his new office at JTP during the merger. My heart was so damn sore. I just couldn’t believe it. I worked so hard to lessen his financial burden and there he is creating another mess. He really makes a total blunder of himself. I confronted him for an explanation but nothing comes out from his mouth, not talking or telling me anything. The silence is deafening my ears. I just couldn’t describe my emotions at that moment.

I’ve got no one to turn to not event my parents. The only strength I have was the kids. (sob). I tried my best to keep going at the same time trying to figure out how to overcome the tribulation. By now hubby and I are in our separate bedrooms. We were not in talking terms as if we are both in a different world. We only exchange a few words on important matters otherwise we are like strangers in our own house. I continue to send and fetch the kids from my parent’s house and hubby will find his own ways to work.

I filled my frustration by surfing the net during my break and came across this matchmaking website that attract me to register with my nickname and to my surprise I begin to receive enormous response in my inbox. I get fascinated with my new hobby and soon found new contact and companion in the cyber world. And believe me it really makes me forget the entire sticky situation. I get associated with people who never fail to amuse me with their word of advice and get myself entertained whenever I was down in the dumps with their shaggy dog story.

This has also eventually changed my perception towards my entire life. I am beginning to be more conscious of my outer shell. I embark on aerobic classes and went for a stringent diet until my weight trim down tremendously. I had transform into a new person that I myself could not believe it.

(to be continued….)

A Journey To Remember 1993 ~ 2000

1993 ~ Beginning of hassle

His job requires full commitment and frequently travels outstation until it comes to a time when he gets frustrated with his employer. Eventually hubby gets himself a better job offer and decided to leave the org upon influence of his former schoolmate although I objected. No doubt the perks are far better than what he is getting but it was not a strong company and god knows how long the company would last as compared to his current org. Nonetheless, he left. And true enough the new job only last him for two years. He was jobless then. God knows how perturbed I was thinking to muddle through the misfortune but my prayers answered when hubby was reinstate by his former boss. He was offered a different post and attached at my then former office at WGT.

1994 ~ Home sweet home

When thing have settle down and we already had a steady income, we bought ourselves a brand new car. Soon after my confirmation, I started searching for property and found a good deal for a double storey terrace house adjacent to my parent’s house. It was a dream house that I have always wanted. Apart from its location, the price is certainly within our means. So we didn’t waited for long before we had the purchase completed and move into our own abode in late 1994. Our new home, new life and I can sense that hubby was glad that we finally move out from my parent’s house. (Actually within the period when Along was born, we did move out from my parents place a couple of times but we eventually return when times are bad and moreover we had no one to take care of the kids)

1995 ~ Worsening state of affairs

In 1995, I requested for a transfer to BS office, nearer to our home and because I was also expecting Alang. Hubby was even busier with his new post and now that we are no longer in the same route, everyday I had to wait for him to fetch me from the office. Hubby has this really terrible attitude when it comes to time management and it sucks all time. He will in no way be on time and he’s always ready with excuses. I became impatient of the long hours of waiting everyday that we begin to squabble. Unexpectedly hubby turns out to be more defensive whenever we had argument. Conversely I became hypersensitive while I was expecting Alang and hubby attitude really sucks. He was just like “do I care”? Needless to say in many instances, I will end up feeling the guilty ones as I am not fond to prolong the argument.

Another incident that pissed me off was when we move into our own house, two of my BIL also abruptly became uninvited guest of the house by moving in to stay with us. I could not say anything, can I? (although it’s my house, I’m the one who bought the house and paying for the loan?) To make matters worse I was also not in good term with PIL.

Well, you see, when you get to know the persons better, there will always be some differences, which sometimes difficult to understand. I grew up as town girl and being a contemporary person, I just like to be myself. I am not a hypocrite person and changed myself just to please others.

Unlike hubby, an obedient child to his parent and always do anything to gratify them. My PIL are very religious people (but in this case, hubby was not that devout) so sometime I can’t get along well with them (in terms of my thinking, my dressing, my attitude and so on). This has created some distance between PIL and me. Apart from that his other siblings also create a lot of problem for us. The only good thing is all my sisters’ in-laws are very accommodating. We share the same dilemma.


1996 ~ Little angel was born

Days went by and I gave birth to an adorable baby boy, Alang in Sept 1996 at SJMC. By this time around Along and Angah was already at kindergarten. My mother takes care of the kids when I’m out at work. Eventually when Alang was about six month old, I received an offer to pursue my Degree at my former Uni. I accepted the offer and there goes again my hectic life as a working mother of three, a wife and a student. I guess I’m so used to this kind of life that I am immune to it. Hubby doesn’t say much about my intention knowing that I had always have passion to further my studies to the highest level possible.

1997 ~ Hectic life again

Realizing of these multitasking duties that I had, I persist to drive on my own now. I’m no longer endurable to loiter for him to fetch me from office, what more to send me to classes and ended up being late. So I decided that I will drive to office and hubby will take the “Komuter” instead. During the day, I had to tussle at the office to complete my chore by 6.00pm before I head off for my classes. Lessons usually end at 10.30pm and I will drive the wheel like crazy Schumacher to fetch the kids and rushed home. Normally I will arrive home by 11.00pm.

In the course of period, I notice that hubby will usually arrive home much later than I am. Ask why is he being so late, his will just answer me bluntly that he has got work to do at the office. The simple term is Overtime. Of course I get very suspicious but if I bring up the matter, we will end up with unsolved argument. In the end, I just couldn’t be bothered because I have so many other things to concern rather than getting myself infuriated. Besides, I don’t wanna get myself pressured with all the nonsense that keep mingle in my mind. Even that two BIL of mine will offer no comfort.

Along the way, due to the economic downturn in 1997, the industry we are in had to be amalgamate. Both hubby and mine had no exception. Hubby org was merge with one of the big giant whilst mine was taken over by insignificant player of the industry, which made vast headlines but we are fortunate not to get laid off.


1998 ~ Exchange of environment

In the workplace itself, I am not in favor of so many issues. Most of my colleague & I can’t cope with the autocrative & insensitive boss and with the entire work burden on my shoulder, I get really hopeless sometimes. I even consider giving up my job (but of course I can’t coz I still need the earnings to support the family **sigh*). One disastrous outbreak occurs in late 1998 (which I will explained further in another write-up) and I felt horribly distress and fidgety. The incident would adversely affect my job. I didn’t inform hubby of the incident and I just keep it to myself, not even my family knows about it. Eventually I was transferred to another office and fortunately it was within the same vicinity.

1999 ~ Little baby girl arrival

The new office environment was more serene and found myself working with a bunch of jubilant people especially my chummy friend Minie. She helped me a lot recuperating the misfortune until I regain my courage. In the midst of work and study, I got pregnant again. But this time, I manage to complete my final semesters papers before Adek’s was due in June 1999. I told myself this would be my last pregnancy coz I don’t plan to have any more babies in the millennium years.

Hubby was still attached with his current org and always busy as ever. Concurrently he established a joint venture company with his colleague to undertake a contract awarded by Petronas. Apart from his current job, he does his part time work at night. But the joint venture collapse when a partner deceit and swindles their money. He disappeared with all the equipment leaving hubby & another partner indebt to AhLoong’s. So there begins another ironies of our lives.

2000 ~ Millennium bugs

May 2000, I was offered to work in one of the mini outlet launch by the org in AM Mall. The workings hours are from 11-7 and it operates 7 days a week. With the kids growing and schooling along with hubby financial constrain, I really need this extra income to scratch out a living. Furthermore, with its flexi hours, it enables me to send and fetch Along & Angah from school. By this time earnings is always insufficient to cover for all our expenses and we bicker a lot. By some means I can sense that something fishy is going on with hubby but I just could not unleashed what it was. Be that as it may, I concentrate on my new duties and the kids as my flexi hour allows me to juggle my time. Along was in standard four while Angah in her standard two. Soon after, I graduated and commence my job-hunting again.

To be continued...

A Journey To Remember 1988 ~ 1992

Time flies, really fast. Unconsciously, it’s almost 18 years ago when it all begins.

In commemorate of my 17th wedding anniversary, I wish to share my journey throughout the seventeen years of marriage, a voyage that has made me realize how much courage and faith one’s need to survive in this passage of life. I dedicate this to my kids just incase I’m not able to put in the picture when they grew up and mature enough to understand.

1988 – New episode of life begins

Hubby and I work in the same institution but we have never met due to our separate office location until one day when our office organize a yearly tournament held at YMCA Brickfields somewhere back in August 1988. That was the first time I lay eyes on him. Somehow he attracts my attention coz at a glimpse, he reminds me of someone I had known in the past. Eventually when the game ended, I didn’t even manage to get his name or his number but that does not make me stop thinking about this guy. I begin my query and auspicious enough he works in the same department with one of my close colleague, FA from whom I get hold of his name and number (office number of course, there were no hand phones back then) but that’s it. I didn’t make any attempt to call whatsoever, but just leave it as it is.

Apparently my friend, FA had told him about me and he somehow made the first move by calling me on one fine night when I was working late hours, a few weeks after. So there we were chatting over the phone almost everyday until we finally agreed to meet for dinner and so it all begins. I just knew from the first day we met that he will be my soul mate.

1989 ~ The Grand Day

We didn’t court for long when we decided to tie the knot soon after we had saved enough for the dowry & wedding ceremony. We were wed on 14th May 1989 at the mosque of my granny’s village in KP and the reception was held two weeks later. It was a simple wedding coz I decided to hold the ceremony at my granny’s place, which was just 30 minutes drive from hubby’s home.

Just a note to ponder, actually before my parent agreed to accept his proposal, we must first ensure that he does not come from the same “Suku” as I am because it was prohibited by our “Adat”. I was like huh? Is this a joke or another mythical? Seriously it never suggests itself that such belief will emerge but unfortunately it was not a trivial issue. In no circumstances will the marriage take place if the answer is positive. Anyway it was a relief to understand that he was not in our “Suku”. (mine was “Selemak” whilst his was “Tanah Data”) *Sigh*

Our journey since begins. He was twenty-four and I was twenty-two and in my second year of my DIB studies when we got married but that does not stop me from continuing. I persevere with my career at the same time pursue my studies while hubby was working shift hours during the early phase of our marriage.

During early years, we rarely had problems with our marriage. Hubby was a very understanding husband and a caring father to the kids. Hubby being a “kampong” guy, he is the homely type of person, jovial & cheerful. I also describe him as a cool person and hardly ever he gets teed off. On top of that he’s very endeavor to his job. He’s a workaholic. Working in IT technical & service niche requires him to spent most of his time at the office and working until late hours is nothing out of the ordinary.

On the other hand, I describe myself as a very envious & possessive person and my biggest weakness was my bad temper. I can simply get on my nerve if I sense something amiss. Throughout the marriage as far as I can remember, I’m always the one who initiate any argument whilst hubby will just keep his silence.

I am also very blunt person. I will just speak my mind out if I dislike certain thing in a very sarcastic way. Hubby will always quote that I am a stubborn person, and perhaps he was right. I am stubborn but for a reason. My reasons my not vindicated but it’s how I look at matter from my point of view. But above all hubby has never laid a finger on the children nor me no matter how harsh I may be.


1990 ~ A Child was born

We stay with my parents and a year later I gave birth to Along. I took a year break from my studies to give full attention to my newborn baby. With god’s blessing, hubby was promoted when Along was born and no longer require to work shift hours. We were proud to be parents at young age even though we had some difficulties initially (Along). The year was full with blessing when we able to have out own transport. At this time, I had transferred to from my office at WGT to OKR office, which was closer to our house and a stone throw away from my campus.

1992 ~ The arrival of Angah/Graduation Day/New Employer

Two years later during my final semester, I gave birth to a cute baby girl, Angah. She was born a week before I sat for my final exam and with god’s willing, I manage to complete all seven papers during my confinement. I was so relief now that I have completed my Diploma, I can concentrate full time on my two kids.

At the same time, I started seeking new job opportunity and with God’s Blessing, I grasp an opportunity from one of the leading org in the industry that offers better position & greater remuneration. The only lacking was that one of conditions imposed was to undergo intensive training at Bangi for four months. I had no options but to make the sacrifice and leave my kids in the care of my parent. Hubby had no objection, as he himself was designate huge assignment to be completed during the year.

In the interim, we had our hard times when income could not cater for our increase in expenses thus we had to let go the car but still manage to make ends meet. Subsequent to my completion of the course attended, I was assign to PWTC office.

To be continued...

Happy Mother's Day

The past weekend was a delighted one being yesterday was Mother’s Days as well as our 17th Wedding Anniversary. However, we did not get a chance to go anywhere to celebrate the momentous occasion since Alang went for a school jaunt to Malacca on Saturday. But somehow we had my special home cooked lunch & dinner – Chicken Rice for lunch and Black Pepper Hailam Mee for dinner. Come Sunday, I had a severe migraine that I can’t even open my eyes and the best part is I had left the medicine at home in PJ. Bleargh!! I had to dragged myself out of the bed to prepare breakfast & after lunch was served I went to rest my head after taking two tablet of activefast but the ache still doesn’t go off. Hubby and I left KP at 9.00 pm and I almost vomited when we reach PJ home. I retire to bed soon after taking my medicine.

The kids hand me this note before I left last night. I felt so touched and happy too being appreciated as a mother . I am glad the kids knew how much I love them and contented having to spend more time with the them. Mommy love you too my dear kids and to my dearest hubby, I will always love you, now and forever, Happy 17th Wedding Anniversary.

Weekend Pleasures

I had a marvelous weekend with the kids. It was indeed a pleasant and enjoyable ones. At the point of writing on this blog, Along is still enjoying his so-called “holiday” at home. He has few more days before sending him back to KP to resume his study.

I pick the kids back to KL on Friday evening. Lucky me the traffic flow was smooth all the way and manage to reach home just before 8.00pm. right away rush to the grocery to buy some stuff for dinner. I manage to storm out Hailam Mee specially requested by my darling Alang.

On Saturday morning, we had scramble egg with bread for breakfast (of which Alang whine not his taste of breakfast – well this kid of mine is very fussy when it comes to foodstuff, too many abstention - in the end he just had “teh tarik” and “keropok") whilst Along, Angah and Hubby still under the blanket. I dunno what time they got up bcoz by then I’m already at the neighbor house giving a hand for their I kenduri. We had lunch at the kenduri after which all of us dozed off till evening.

Late evening, the whole bunch went to visit my auntie at SP. Its been quite sometime since we last visited them (which we usually do those days when the kids were here) so its kinda family get-together for all of us. As usual auntie will prepare her specialty cuisine i.e Hailam Mee (oh no, not again?? but Alang’s face smiling away hehehe - actually my aunt was the one who gave me that recipe)

Left auntie’s place at about 7.00pm for KLCC. It was quite surprising actually, when KLCC was less crowded than the usual (during weekends & holidays). We went up to Kinokuniya as the kids wanted to buy some books. Angah as usual bought herself a novel whilst Alang and Adek had their storybooks. As for Along, nothing at his interest to purchase? Hubby was just browsing outside the shop coz he can’t stand the kids searching all over the place for the books and subsequently undecided, which books to buy (if possible they wanna have all but mommy have limited cash-on-hand J) hence each one get one only. After the tired round of browsing, we went off to the square to enjoy the fountain show. We take our leave after spending about half hour or so and continued the night at mamak’s for supper. Upon reaching home, I was dead beat and straight away went to bed with Adek (after preparing Adek’s milo in a feeding bottle, of course – yes she is still on bottle feed at the age of seven) whilst Angah and Alang can’t wait to start off with their reading adventure. I felt asleep soon after leaving the kids in their own planet.

Sunday was heaven as everyone woke-up late so was mommy. Anyway I got up just in time to prepare fried rice for breakfast before it begin hullabaloo when I started screaming everyone to get up and get dressed to attend the wedding. We arrive at the wedding in Kg. Semarak (it was a squatters area so its kinda inconvenience for car to pass by and we had to park the car one km away from the house) almost 2.00pm but the place was so crammed that we had to park ourselves on separate tent. The kids were sitting in one corner and hubby and mommy had to sit another corner. Anyhow, the bride was so enchanting in stunning green kebaya whilst the bridegroom was quite a good- looking guy. I think they are such a matching couple. I wish them a happily marriage ever after and always remember that marriage is not the end of problem but the beginning of hassle hehe! (isn’t that so true, people? – hey I’m talking thru my own experience occay)

Subsequently after the wedding, except hubby, everyone opted to proceed to BTS thus majority prevail. Traffic was rather congested on the way to BTS from JTR headed towards Imbi but we finally made it to BTS. We park the car at the adjacent building (where the AB office was) and it costs RM6 per entry. Blearghhhhh!

Alike KLCC, BTS too wasn’t that crowded either and we had our free and easy browsing the shops until Angah enter one of the VCD’s shop searching for her favorite Korean movie “Save your last dance for me” (sound familiar?). I notice she has been eyeing for this stuff ever since it ended on TV screen and she had the title & character written everywhere on her study table. I did thought of buying it as her birthday present recently, but I find the cost was incredibly expensive (it cost RM139.90 at Speedy.) Apparently the shop was selling at RM89.90 only! Angah told me she has saved up to RM60 from her pocket money for that purpose and request me to top-up another RM30. Considering the efforts she made, I generously give her my portion as a belated birthday gift. I can see how excited she was while Adek & Alang gave the impression of sharing the joyfulness. Along as usual kept his silence as if he was in his own world. No request no nothing.

We continue browsing until we reach the Cosmo World. Only the young ones prefer to enter the theme park whilst the eldest prefers to walk around the complex so hubby agreed I took Alang & Adek into the park. The admission fees cost me RM55 for an adult and two children. Well its considered reasonable as compared to LGT theme park hehe. Alang & Adik enjoyed themselves with their cho-cho train ride, the crazy bus ride, the merry-go-round and the flying bees. Unfortunately Alang exceeded the maximum height for the bumper-to-bumper and the ship ride. He was frustrated so I had to cheer him up with the sand arts colouring instead and had to spent another 20 bucks. (mommy pokai big time beb!)

Make our exit after spending more than two hours in the park and hubby had his furious face already (well everyone will get on their nerves if they had to wait for more then an hour would't u?). On the way home, we stop for “teh tarik” at mamak’s and afterthat send Alang & Along for hair cut at Nathan’s. While waiting for them, I prompted nearby pasar malam to get stuff for dinner and we proceeded home thereafter.

When dinner is over, everyone had their own agenda. Alang & Along were busy with PS, Angah already enjoying her VCD whilst hubby at the PC playing the zuma game. Adek continued reading her storybook and myself just can’t wait to exit to bed.

Come Monday I’ve got to send them back to KP except for Along. Hubby & I decided that I will be the one sending them back coz my dad had requested to leave the other car at KP whilst hubby & Along will be maid of the day to do some spring cleaning. Eventually I will get a ride home from my brother whose on his way back from his holiday in KTN. We arrive at KP after a two hours journey. The kids were then busy preparing for school and by late evening there was a heavy downpour. My brother had to delayed our departure since traffic was slow moving along S-KP road and announcement at era that traffic was motionless at the north-south highway. We make a move about 10pm after saying goodbye to the kids.

Here I am again back to my hectic career and looking forward for another Friday to approach which means another delightful weekend with the kids. Adios fella.

Apo kono eh Jang

This week has been another hectic week for me & hubby following Along’s misconduct the previous week. Hubby had to take leave to resolve the matter. I had left the trouble for him since I certainly believe he’s the best person to deal with the situation wisely. I am all hooked up with work so as to not to get my self infuriated. Yes I can easily get annoyed when it comes to stuff like this.

Hubby went to Along’s school on Wednesday and after some conversation with the Headmistress he was advise that Along will be suspended from school with effect from 1st of May for 2 weeks but hubby negotiate to change the date to take effect from yesterday (25th April) instead. The headmistress was also kind enough to send him for a “Team Building” course for problematic students so as to revolutionize him to have some improvement when he returns. Otherwise, the school has no other option but to expelled him from school. Well I’ll dealt with that one later. Eventually hubby took Along back to PJ for consultation.

I had to get a present for my staff wedding this forthcoming Sunday. I was considering buying her a Microwave Oven and found a great deal for my purchase at Sogo. I’m also arranging to take children back to KL since its going to be a long weekend so we can spent time together here at home.

Apo cito eh Daro

From the time when they were born, my mother has been taking care of my children being the fact that I lived with my parents before and after marriage. Being a working mom, a wife and student certainly need a superwoman in you. I have been in employment immediately after my SPM in 1984 to support my parents and it remains the most important factor in my working life ever since. Due to that I was not able to further my studies albeit results were good.

After three years of working experience, I enroll for off-campus studies at local university. In between period, I got married, give birth to Along and Angah, and manage to complete my Diploma as well. Through the years, it was my mom who takes care of my two children. Being married at young age has its pros and cons. My hubby and I started off from zero. We went through the ups and downs before we had what we possess now and still striving for a better live for us and the children, at the same time uphold our responsibility to both my parents and his.

While we were busy with our own commitment and obligation, the children grown in the care of my parents. Nevertheless we were emotionally involved and never at any point of time that I disregard them. We finally moved to our own abode adjacent to my parent’s home back in 1994. I have always wanted living on my own (for some reason I don’t want to be too dependent on my parents) and I was very contented. At this point in time, I had left my former employer to work for a better position in a prominent organization.

My daily routine is to drop the children at their grandma on the way to office and fetch them in the evening. Time flies and before you knew it, I had given birth to Alang and Adek. After giving birth to Alang, I went to pursue my degree at my former university (doing off campus studies again) and graduated six month after Adek was born. Still the routine continues. At one stage, I decided to hire a maid to take care of Alang and Adek as Along and Angah had started schooling but not for long, I had problem with my marriage (This will be elaborated further in my future write-up). I realize that the children are better to be in the good hands of their grandma.

Apparently my mom and dad finally decided they wanted to spend their time at their very hometown in KP (my parent have be living in PJ since late 60’s). They had requested to bring along the children. I was of course reluctant at first but having a problem marriage, I had no other options at that point time but to agree. I still remember Along and Angah were in their form one and standard five respectively while Alang entering his first year of school. Adek was just 4 years old then. It was quite bizarre in the beginning but gradually we reconcile. The journey of a weekend parent begins since.

Along

I am sorry coz i dont hv time to write in this blog on daily basis, its not that i dont wanna write, but time does not permit me to do so eventhough there's so many things that i wanna write. Its my lunch break now and being a friday, i have longer break so i decided to take this opportunity to write something in this blog.

I wanna a talk about my eldest son whom i called Along (not ah looong occay!!) coz i just received a call from my dad informing me that's my son is in trouble again. Dunno why Along will always create problem for us and make me worried all the time.

Along was born on a fine wednesday morning of 31st July, 16 years ago. I had 9 months of morning sickness but I dont have any complications during labour. The delivery just happen within seconds that i dont even recall how the contraction felt. From day one he was born, he's already shows signs of trouble (or problem??). This baby of mine have "sawan tangis" (i dunno what it's scientific term) and being 1st time mom, its kinda of difficult for me to overcome the trauma. I was lucky tho I still have my mom to assist me during my confinement. The "crying and crying" goes on and on until finally when he's about 1.5 years I got pregnant again. Surprisingly the "sawan" disappear when I give birth to my 2nd daughter.

When he was young, i had to have a lot of patience with him. He will do all kinds of things that makes me gets into my nerves. I once remember when he was in std three, a teacher called to inform that my son was caught stealing teacher's book (if i'm not mistaken) with his friends in school. Being a wife, a mother, a working woman and a student at that time, i find it difficult to handle him. Again i always have my mom and dad there for me.

Years and years went by, the relationship between along and me became estrange. He seldom talk to me and always like to hang out with his frens. Even if we went on a family holiday, he's always by himself. He's not even close with his other siblings. He's always in the world of his own. He's very stubborn, irresponsible and not doing well in school and i just cant stand his behavior. I get irritate by his innocent look whenever I question him for his wrong doing.

Every year since he was in form one, I had to transfer him from one school to another due to his discipline problems. Just a week ago, i was called to his school and the teacher told me that they are going to dismiss him from school if he continues to create problem and violate the rules. (he was found smoking in school compound and sleeping at the surau).

When is was in form 2, he was caught stealing bicycles (not one but two bikes) in school and he was charged in court. Hubby and I had to bail him and he was sentence for good behavior for 24 months which will expire in August. If he fails, we had to pay the bail. And finally today, my dad inform me that he was caught riding motorcycle without a license, motorbike has no insurance and hanging out at 2.00 am in the morning. The police came and send him home.

At the point of writing this, I felt so depressed and disappointed. I know i have no one to blame but myself. I've been so hard on him since he was young and being the eldest son he always gets the blame and spank. But I dont understand why my own blood and flesh would do this to his own mother. I dont have the answers now, not yet but nevertheless I love him equally and unconditionally. Its a fact and I want him to know that.. *sigh*

AMLA

Last Thursday and Friday, I attended a training session on AMLA (Anti Money Laundring Act) - Know Your Customer (KTC) organized by our Training Dept. It was conducted by this guy from IBBM (Mr VK) which I find it very knowledgeable and interesting ones. I had lost touch of the Banking Practice since I took my VSS more than five years ago and I find that the Banking Practice has changed tremendously for the past five years. I've heard about this act before but with very minimal knowledge. I am now attached with an Institutions where we are more towards social obligation to our Bumiputra community. All that I've been practicing in the banking sector does not apply and I had difficult times dealing with my client here. They are either ignorant or they just don't bother. Being a compliance person makes you tend to be not the " popular ones " in this office and my days in the office are filled with anger and tense. We've had all the policy & procedures in place but it was never been followed. It sucks big time!! Anyway back to my training, it was a fun filled session coz this guy really knows his way to make all of us alive during the days especially after food. He makes hell of a joke of our SV and by the end of the course, I rate him all 5!! :)

Pernyataan Pembelaan

I took leave on Friday to do some errand and file my defence at the SAMC for the summons served on me. I was summon by BKRM for overdue I failed to settle a year ago (which was not intentionally)for an amount that I totally dont agree with. I had this dispute about the figure which was served and so I claimed "mengaku tidak bersalah" during the mention date couple of months ago and the next hearing was fixed on this Friday April 7. Prior to this date, I'm suppose to file my "Pernyataan Pembelaan" which I only did last friday!! I did not appoint any lawyer to represent me coz I could not afford their fees and I was told by a collegue (who was a legal advisor) that I can file the defence myself. I consulted (FOC) him on how to go about filing my defence on and it only cost me RM4.00 for filing fees + RM1.80 for registered post!! (I had to mail the defence to the plaintiff's lawyer)If I were to appoint a lawyer they could easily charged me RM1,000+++ (as happen to me on an earlier case)(must be wondering how many summons I had huh????)

I felt relieved upon filing and just had to be present in court on 7/4/2006. As for now I lay my case.

Muqaddimah

waaaaaaaaaachaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaa

At last I manage to create my own blog.. I hope this would be the place where I trash my minds out.. say whatever I wish.. curse whomever I hatred.. etc..etc..etc..

I had always this passion of writing but knowing i'm not a good writer, I just pass my time reading other bloggers entry and try to get the courage to do so.. and today after all these years I finally did it.. bravo to me!!

Since this is my first entry, I shall not write much, but for a start i think this is good enough. Will find some ideas tonight how I shall put the words together.. as for now adios.